The Children Who Never Came Home

May 27 2022

Today marks one year since hundreds of unmarked graves of Indigenous children were detected at the Kamloops residential school. Since then, thousands of more graves have been discovered all over Northern Turtle Island. These graves were detected using ground penetrating radar technology, and is considered quite accurate. There are also accounts of living survivors, and the Truth and Reconciliation Report published in 2015 has an entire Chapter on unmarked graves. I feel the need to go into some of these specific details, as there is some information being spread around about these discoveries being a hoax and “false news”.

In 1910, a Canadian Indian Affairs agent by the name of Duncan Scott Campbell wrote the following in response to requests that the government address the high rates of death among Indigenous children at residential schools.

“It is readily acknowledged that Indian children lose their natural resistance to illness by habituating so closely in the residential schools and that they die at a much higher rate than in their villages. But this does not justify a change in the policy of this Department which is geared towards a Final Solution of our Indian Problem.”

It’s true that many graves have not yet been exhumed, yet there is enough evidence to support the fact that mass graves do exist. The broad implications of the colonial systems on these lands, and the ongoing inter-generational effects of residential schools is still being felt today, and will effect communities for many generations to come.

Early reports of the grave discoveries were reported as "mass graves", rather than "unmarked graves", and this has been used to discredit all of the discoveries and fuel conspiracy theories and denialist claims. But the truth is that even before these findings were widely reported internationally, there were already records of thousands of children having died in the schools. Denying the claims altogether can create a convenient escape route for those not wanting to acknowledge the darkness of how these lands were settled.    

Having this all brought up to the surface is very painful for a lot of people and we as non-Indigenous people need to be very sensitive in how we address these sensitive topics. The narratives have been so jaded in favour of governments, religious organizations, corporations and non-Indigenous settlers for so long, and it’s natural that there will be some backlash. It’s time to let Indigenous people speak and be heard, and be acknowledged - and to be supported in whatever ways they need in order to heal and to become strong.

I have so much to learn myself. I recently got schooled by a young Indigenous woman (in a kind and educational way) and I realized that I still have so much racism baked into myself. It didn’t feel very good, and in the weeks following I went through waves of defensiveness, humility, self-righteousness, confusion, guilt, grief - and then back to humility again. I realized that there were still parts of me that naively wanted to believe that “Canada” isn’t as bad as it actually is. Reconciling these dark parts of myself and my ancestry is a continual process of humbling, learning, listening, and taking action.

I’ve also been in such deep grief lately and so focused on what’s going on in Ukraine that I lost perspective on the space that I inhabit on these lands. Personal grief dredges up the sludge from my soul and shows me parts of myself that are unhealed. There can be a temptation to avoid accountability or make excuses, and I’m trying really hard not to do that. There can also be a temptation to use my neurodiversity as an excuse to avoid being real with uncomfortable aspects of myself, and that’s also something I have to keep in check as I go through various personal growth wormholes.

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Can you imagine how the greater White society of Canada would react if hundreds of unmarked graves of White children were detected on Indigenous reservations? I’m pretty sure that the military would be sent in and there would be mass arrests, interrogations and incarcerations. In Australia, the false pretence of child sexual abuse was used to enact the Internevtion program, yet no abuse cases were ever found, and the world has been mostly silent about that. There's a double standard, and a huge power imbalance within the four major colonial enterprises of the world: Canada, America, Australia and New Zealand.

In so-called Canada there have been widespread accounts of the abuses that were enacted in residential schools and many court cases, yet very little real justice has been served. The government has made proclamations and apologies to the media, yet behind closed doors continues to fight Indigenous people in the courts, and the struggle for accountability from church and state for the systematic genocide that took place on these lands goes on and on.

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I went down to the big parliament building here in Victoria thinking that there might be some kind of event to honour the children, and I instead encountered a very loud and obnoxious so-called “Freedom” rally. I decided to check it out anyway out of morbid curiosity, and I gingerly loitered around the fringes of the mob. I noticed an ancient evergreen tree looming over the expansive lawn, creeping over the busy tourist bedecked sidewalk. It was an impressively huge Ent of a thing, and some young children were climbing around underneath of it in defiance of a fence and signs indicating the area wasn’t to be disturbed. I had brought some items to place on a shrine for the children who never came home, thinking there might be one somewhere, but there wasn’t. I decided to have my own event under the canopy of the massive tree.

I hung around on the sidelines for a while until the children moved on, and then I hopped the gate and stood under one of the huge sweeping branches of the giant tree. I suddenly felt quite invisible so I started casting a circle with a stick I picked up off of the ground, and I was undisturbed throughout my ceremony.

Part of the ritual structure I follow involves honouring the ancestors of the land, and sometimes I have long conversations with them and ask them what they would like from me or just say hey sorry I'm not honouring you as much as I should be. I never ask for anything from the godds and spirits of these lands, only from my own ancestral godds.

There are many members of the so-called “Freedom” fighters who have roots in various alt-right organizations, including some with neo-Nazi affiliations; so I decided to call upon some of the Norse gods and ask them to set these misguided meatheads all straight (or queer) about how the Norse and Germanic peoples have begat millions of mixed race children, Odin and Loki are two-spirited, and Thor is a pussy whipped cross-dresser (and while I'm at it: the entire cosmos of the Norse world and everything in it was created out of the body of a hermaphrodite called Ymir).

I really appreciate times in the past where I attended public rituals with some really groovy witches from Reclaiming who would often plunk themselves in the middle of a busy park and honour a Sabbath while teenagers played volleyball in the background, or families had little picnics in the vicinity. I was quite self-conscious about it all at first, yet here I was doing my sacred business while hundreds of yahoos yelled and waved their gigantic Canadian flags all around me.

The rally attendants were making quite a spectacle, and there was a level of fanaticism that was unnerving; yet they really didn’t seem like bad people. And they had something that a lot of the social and environmental rallies are sorely lacking: a sense of camaraderie with each other. A lot of the attendees seemed like salt of the earth, give you the shirt off their back kinds of people who were just horribly misguided by misinformation. The orations that I did hear were painfully bad and juvenile, and seemed on the level of a Grade 5 book report written at the last minute after getting sugar high on too many jube jubes. And the crowd was just gobbling it right up.

I spend so much of my time in isolation indulging in my own special interests, that when I step out into the mainstream of society it’s usually a shocking and harrowing experience. I felt myself dissociating from the physical realm because the whole thing was too fucking surreal.

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Growing up in wacky lefty towns in the West Kootenays and in East Vancouver, often around Commercial Drive, I’ve been exposed to anti-vaxxers and conspiracy theorists for my entire life. And I also spent time hanging out with some radical right wingers and Neo-Nazis at times as well, both in Vancouver, and in Europe when I hung out in the black metal scene. It’s interesting how the radical right and the radical left seem to have a strange symbiosis with each other, and are equally self-righteous and arrogant in their own special ways. And that's been culminated within the so-called “Freedom” movement, which has attracted Nazi extremists and New Age hippies alike.

Thankfully, my parents never went down that wormhole. I remember getting vaccinated as a young person, and I’ve had many many vaccinations before travelling internationally. Not getting polio is awesome.

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No one at the Freedom rally seemed to be interested in the human rights of Indigenous people on these lands, or women’s reproductive rights; or freedom for the people of Tigray, Yemen, Iraq, Palestine, Ukraine, Xinjiang, Tibet, Sri Lanka, Myanmar, Taiwan or Sudan. Millions of people in the world are starving and being displaced and genocided, and the brave Freedom Fighters of so-called Canada are holding rallys because they don’t want to be vaccinated? Meanwhile, some third world countries are so desperate for the vaccine that they’ve started violating the patent to make their own??

And really, the biggest health crisis right now on these lands I inhabit is not COVID, it’s fentanyl. That has been the case for about 10 years now. Opiates have always been a huge issue here on the West Coast, but fentanyl and carfentanyl (and now benzofentanyl) have taken things to the extreme. The opiate crisis is systemic and interconnected with unfair distribution of wealth, lack of housing, lack of mental health support, inter-generational trauma and lack of community. And Indigenous people are disproportionately affected by addiction and overdoses.

Civilization builds itself up onto the backs of the poor and the dispossessed, and all kinds of issues arise out of that. One of my friends from the Carnegie Centre once told me that studies were done showing that the quality of life for everyone benefits from a more equal society, not just those living in poverty.

Maybe we should focus on getting everyone on the planet shelter, food, clean drinking water, access to health care and education, i.e real freedom? There are actually enough resources in the world to do that. The biggest problem of the earth isn’t population density, it’s unfair distribution of wealth. Greed and ignorance reign supreme.

Perhaps the reason why so many people are latching onto the whole freedom rally thing is because it’s ‘low hanging fruit’, so to speak? Diving into the real issues that we’re facing on this planet can be really brutal and overwhelming. Working towards changing this corrupt system and supporting those who are truly dispossessed and lacking in basic freedoms requires a lot of hard work, dedication and self-sacrifice. It burns you out.

Having an adult temper tantrum and parading around in monster trucks like mega douches from an 80’s teen movie is a far more accessible way of venting the frustrations of human existence than the soul-busting work that will enact real change for the benefit of all of humanity.

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I’m still not sure how to deal with the people in my life who’ve gone down the COVID conspiracy spiral. There are quite a few of them, and people often see me as an open-minded listening ear, and think that I’ll understand them somehow. One thing that most of these conspiracy theorists turned medical professionals share in common is that they exude a certain air of arrogance, like as if they have discovered the holy grail of knowledge, and the rest of us are poor misguided peons. And interestingly, these so-called Freedom seekers seem to get ultra sensitive when others exercise their freedom to get vaccinated and continue wearing masks!

All that being said, I’m really really happy not to have to wear masks anymore. It’s also been great not getting sick at all for a couple of years, as it seems like the 3 vaccination doses I’ve had the incredible privilege of receiving brought my already high immunity levels up even higher.

I don’t believe that the vaccine alters a persons DNA. It’s actually an RNA vaccine - totally different, and I've already taken RNA vaccines in the past when I've taken flu shots and I never had any issues. Check out this video to get a better idea of what’s going on with the COVID vaccine.


Maybe part of the reason why misinformation and fantastical theories spread like wildfire is because they’re a lot more interesting than the bland facts of real science narrated by a level headed person with a monotone voice?

When a person is feeling lonely, isolated, rejected and misunderstood, I imagine it’s very appealing to enter into a realm where they're part of a vast and complex network of truth seekers who are at the helm of a new world, bravely blazing a trail for the rest of humankind.

In the West here, most of us are extremely spoiled and entitled, yet don’t really have much perspective on the world because we distract ourselves perpetually with stressful/back breaking jobs, social media/internet/TV, unhealthy food, consumerism etc. We consume a huge percentage of the world’s resources, despite representing a small portion of the population, yet somehow we’re not generally happy. And people often feel that small slights to their comforts and security are a far greater threat than they actually are.

Vaccinations are pretty darn safe. They’re not perfect, people occasionally die and occasionally get sick from them. But far more people die and get sick from the diseases that the vaccines are preventing.

But I’ve learned that no amount of logic or passion can convince a person of these things. It’s like trying to explain to my cousins in Alberta that fossil fuels are actually causing a lot of harm ecologically and socially to the world as a whole. They just can’t handle hearing it; their entire identities have been built around oil money and the toys they can buy with the money that they earn.

And now swaths of people have latched onto the wole COVID conspiracy narrative, and it’s become like a new religion. And like all organized religions, it seems like at the heart of the whole thing is ignorance is fear.

It hurts to admit it, but I know that being antagonistic and arguing doesn’t help change people’s minds. Getting angry and defensive, as I often do, doesn’t help at all. When I feel good inside of myself and am open minded and kind towards others I notice that they return in kind.

Last year a man bought a used vehicle from me, and I ended up buying a van at the same time.  We traveled together in his vehicle for a while to do all the switching of vehicles, and I could sense right away that he was a decent and honest person. He ended up telling me a lot about his life, and it turned out he was a Trump supporter. I didn’t react to it when he told me, I just listened to what he had to say, though I made sure to mention that I was going to be heading the the forest to do land activism the following week. He was curious about it. And he ended up opening up to me about some stuff going on with his relationship and how he often gets taken advantage of because he’s so generous, which I was able to relate to.

I'm not always able to have such pleasant interactions with others. There was another man who I randomly met last year on a remote hike and we decided to go an another hike together, given that we both had the same rugged sense of adventure and were both sober. Unfortunately, he turned out to be a conservative Christian, and he got very irate with me when we got in a discussion about Indigenous people. I had just come from a re-occupation camp on St’at’imc lands and learned a lot about how the community was struggling, and this young man felt that he was some kind of an authority on how they were meant to heal and move on, without having much of an understanding of what they were even going through - and he kept interrupting me and talking over me. He was also anti-abortion, and then he was like, “the thing I don’t like about Black Lives Matter is..”. And that’s where I stopped him and was like dude your voice isn’t really needed in any of those scenarios. I was like ya sure I have some criticisms of BLM as well, but I let Black people speak to those things, it’s just not my place. He started yelling and got red in the face and was pointing his finger in my face and waving his hands when he was talking. I was like dude you gotta quit it with that shit. I just left and went home and he sent me messages later on telling me I was a “narcissist”, which was kind of funny as no one had ever called me that before. He told me that his “other pagan women friends” were “really open-minded” and “allowed him to express his viewpoints without judging him”. I was like dude it was about fucking time someone called you out.

Yet I really do think that if we had more sincere love and acceptance of ourselves and others, people wouldn’t need to disappear into bizarre parallel realities and fight imaginary monsters in conspiracy wormholes. We could all come together and fight the very real demons of the world that are hiding away in office towers and opulent villas.

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If you want to fight for freedom, support Indigenous people in reclaiming true sovereignty. Or go fight Imperial Russia in Ukraine. Or work towards addressing the systemic issues that are contributing to the housing crisis and all of the brutal overdoses. Try to realize how fucking lucky you are to breathe clean air and shit into a toilet bowl of clean water, and not have to wake up every morning out of a bomb shelter wondering if your neighbours are alive or not.

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Solving the “Indian Problem”: Assimilation Laws, Practices & Indian Residential Schools

Truth and Reconciliation Reports

There Were Rumours of a Graveyard

Anarchist Perspectve on Vaccines and Masks




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